Tears are Beautiful

Many a time shedding tears is seen as a sign of weakness. But what would you think if I say crying is a huge indicator of your normalcy. We were born crying. Even at that age we knew crying is essential for survival. At what point did we go against this belief? I'm going to list ten reasons here to show that crying is the most logical thing to done in certain situations.

1. Crying relieves stress. This can only be understood practically. Sometimes when your heart is heavy, your tears can melt your sorrow. It is a stress buster if done occasionally. This too has got severe side effects if there is over usage. So learn to melt your sorrows.

2. Tears are a way to express extreme happiness - say when a family member is getting married or a baby is born.

3. Crying is a better way to tackle your stress instead of hurling rude remarks which may make a bad situation worse.

4. Tears show that you actually care for that person. What better indicator can be there for love?

5. Sometimes only when you cry you get to know who really cares for you. Tears throw light on the actual stand on a relationship.

6. Shed tears are better than unmeant words or actions.

7. Tears are actually neutral. They come when you are extremely happy or sad. It is upto you to use it judiciously. Do not shed tears for people who don't understand you because those who do will not be the reason for your tears.

8. While words can express what you want to say your tears expose what you actually feel.

9. A healthy dose of crying occasionally (especially for guys) reminds you that you are completely normal and your heart is in the right place.

10. The next time you feel like crying on hearing a beautiful composition or a wonderful movie, remember that your tears come out only when you are truly moved by something or someone. They are extremely special and are not worth shedding over something silly. 


Say No to Depression

Recently there have been many reports about youngsters taking their own lives. There was this young man who was found dead in his business place. He was in his early thirties and left behind his helpless wife and two young daughters. His parents were numb with grief and his wife must have reacted with shock and disbelief on hearing the news. He was in a decent business and money was not a problem. His health was alright and there were no tell tale signs of any depression. The incident happened out of the blue and the whole family is now grieving for the lost son. He came from an extended family which was reasonably close but none of which helped to stop this disaster. It is very saddening to know that youngsters are so depressed when they have everything going for them.

Reports say that one in thirteen people think about such extreme thoughts in their lifetime. The numbers of people who commit suicide have been steadily increasing through the years and the rate at which it is increasing is alarming. Why do our educated and independent youngsters lack the basic courage to stand up for things they believe in? Just because he did not value his life, he did not bother about his wife and daughters who were totally dependent upon him emotionally and financially. When a life is taken it is not only his life, the future of the whole family is questioned.

What is depression?

Depression is the state of feeling low and worthless. There are numerous reasons for depression. Some are natural like childbirth or menopause. Some are circumstantial like stress in job or new responsibilities or falling sick.  

How to identify depression?

A depressed person is usually quiet and withdrawn immersed in his own thoughts. He has no idea of what is happening in the surroundings and will ignore even the daily routine that he does like dressing well or personal hygiene. Even when the person engages in a conversation, it is mostly negative. It is easier for close friends and family to notice the changes in such a person compared to the rest of his social circle.

Why is it a matter of urgency?

In a country like India people hesitate to go to a psychiatrist for counselling. They are generally not comfortable discussing their problems with some random stranger. Depression is an emotional cry for help that has to be addressed immediately. In a global study two years back, it was even proved that India was the most depressed country in the world. Depression can affect anyone irrespective of age or gender.

How to treat depression?

It is important to talk to people close to you when you feel depressed. If the depression is severe, please consult a psychiatrist. Being alive is more important than the opinion of others about visiting a psychiatrist. There are trained health workers who are specialists in this area.

There are helplines for such people. Please contact them. They will immediately come to your rescue.

Keep yourself engaged and talk to yourself positively. Everyone feels depressed at some point or other. Remember there are people who still care for you and want you to be happy if you are willing to let them know how you feel.

Feeling depressed is nothing to be ashamed of. There are medicines available which can be taken under the supervision of a medical practitioner.

Depression is treatable and beatable. Please consider your family before thinking about such a drastic step. A little love for your loved ones and little openness to external help marks all the difference between life and a lifetime regret.


Color Me Cool

Today I was watching a movie in which the story line was about mixed marriages and especially in this one a Mexican girl decides to marry a African American and the rest of the movie is how the two families have a tough time adjusting. Of course towards the end, the couple get married as expected but it just got me thinking. NO, you guessed it wrong. I was not thinking of writing about mixed cultures, rather I just want to explore the perception of color in our society.

For the Dravidian society, like the one where I come from, being fair is a unique thing. In fact people here are obsessed with being fair that they will do anything for a fair skin.The majority of the population are dark-skinned and by dark I mean somewhere between brown and light brown. So if someone has a fair skin, that is a thing of envy here. They attribute your fair color to your confidence, your affluence and something equally silly. Maybe that is why advertisements like fair and lovely are a huge hit here. I personally hate the way, those ads relate success and confidence to a fair skin. But coming back to the movies, I have never been to America, so I'm not sure how these AAs (read as African Americans) are, but on screen, they are the people who are most comfortable with themselves. Their posture, manner, speech and confidence is truly amazing, not to mention their swagger man! Some of their ladies are even portrayed as women who are extra large in size but man, they are extra large in their courage and confidence too. There is honestly no relation to being fair skinned and to your achievements. You only have to believe in yourself. Making fun of a person being colored or less colored is the worst case of racial discrimination. No one should encourage it. And talking about color, the Spanish simply glow with their skin as if they were naturally tanned. The Chinese are stunning in their creamy skin. The whole world is a big jumble of color.

We are not products to be color coded according to quality. In fact we are all different colors that God thought suitable for making a beautiful rainbow-land called mankind. So forget about being fair-skinned. Your color does not define you or stereo type you. Nelson Mandela was a huge example for that. He did what everyone else thought was absolutely impossible. Every color is unique as is every culture. How will we ever appreciate the white moon or the dazzling stars if there was no black sky? Each color has a purpose and more importantly a beauty that is innate which only can be admired and wished for but never extinguished. Be proud of yourself. You cannot change your skin but you can change the way people perceive and comment about your skin. You can give a new definition to your skin, a new confidence and a unique personality to your skin. Being fair-skinned just does not mean you have far more than anybody. In fact it means you have less of something that defines you - what else, melanin!

Learning to understand and appreciate who you are is far more important than trying to become someone else who is just not you. All the emotions are the same for everyone. There is no stronger or lesser heart, there is only stronger or lesser ego. To hell with all the fairness creams, always remember that you are the most beautiful and special person for your family. That is enough to take on anybody else who is stupid enough to discriminate your skin. Let your dignity and kindness give all those fairness creams a run for their money!

Ten lessons from a pack of cards

1. You may be the king but you still need a queen to win the game. Never underestimate your partner.

2. An 'Ace' (No.1) has a greater value than a king or queen (12 or 13). The value of a thing depends on the context.

3.Life is a game of chance. Learn to play with whatever cards you are dealt with.

4. Learn to understand what you have. Only then can you know what you want.

5. It is important to set right your priorities. A triplet has no meaning when there is no rummy.

6. It is equally important to learn to let go of things which might be a burden in the long run.

7. Remember you alone cannot control your game. There are so many factors that influence it. Learn to enjoy the journey.

8. There are no permanent winners or losers. 

9. What others see as a mere joker, the game sees as a jackpot and a real asset. Know your own value.

10. Change is permanent and challenging. Learn to enjoy the adrenaline rush and go along with the flow. Never lose the 'trust' factor. It keeps you going.

Daffodils - William Wordsworth

I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.

Continuous as the stars that shine
And twinkle on the milky way,
They stretched in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.

The waves beside them danced, but they
Out-did the sparkling leaves in glee;
A poet could not be but gay,
In such a jocund company!
I gazed—and gazed—but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:

For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.

Extreme Sports

Bungee Jumping

Bungee jumping is a popular extreme sport that involves entrusting your life to a bungee cord, a harness and the person who makes sure that the cord and harness are hooked up correctly. The first bungee jump was made off the Clifton Suspension Bridge by members of the Oxford University Dangerous Sports Club on April 1, 1979, in Bristol, England. Although the members were arrested for the act, they continued to make jumps in the United States and are considered to have spread the popularity of the sport. The first commercial bungee site--Kawarau Bridge atQueenstown, New Zealand--was established by A.J. Hackett in 1988.
Braided shock cord, which consists of many latex strands surrounded by a tough outer coat, is the rope used when bungee jumping. An ankle harness and/or a body harness attach the jumper to the rope. A bungee jumper's body harness is similar to the body harness used by rock climbers. It often is used in combination with the ankle attachment for safety, since ankle attachments sometimes detached from the rope.
There are many possible bungee jumping injuries. Miscalculating a cord's elasticity, a faulty harness, or an improper connection to the jump platform can all cause injury. A bungee jumper can get hurt if the cord gets tangled with his body. A jumper may suffer rope burn, dislocated joints, bruises, whiplash, pinched fingers and injuries to his back. There have been several deaths attributed to bungee jumping.
The jumper steps up the edge of whatever she is jumping from--sometimes a bridge or crane--facing the direction she is going to jump. Sometimes the jumper requests a countdown, sometimes she just jumps. The jumper free falls for a few seconds, until she reaches the end of the attached bungee cord. The cord stretches as the jumper continues to fall. When the cord reaches its full extension, the jumper bounces a few times and then is pulled back to her starting point or lowered to the ground, where she's detached from the cord.

Rock Climbing

Rock climbing is not very different from mountaineering except that instead of snow there are rocks involved in this adventure sport. Rock climbing's most basic features include climbing a rock face, using only hands, feet and a safety rope. Certain climbs can often prove gruelling and tough, but the magic of the surrounding mountains landscapes always keep the spirits high of a climber.

Equipments: Shoes, chalk bag, harness, ropes, ropecare, belay devices, cordlette, webbing and carbiners

Another thing that a climber has to keep in mind is the climbing route. Carry a map that guide you about the routes you are planning to take. Remember, any rope can break when loaded over a sharp edge. It is not possible to produce a rope that is strong enough not to break when loaded over a sharp edge, however, the maximum chance for survival is with a new rope.

Rock Climbing Regions In India
Rock climbing is an almost year round sport in India, except during the Monsoon season. The fun on the rocks is mainly concentrated in and around Delhi; near Pune on the Western Ghats; along the Bombay-Nashik at centers like Mumbra and Dulha; in Manali in Himachal Pradesh; the Chamundi Hills in Karnataka, and in Sonamarg, a popular base in Kashmir.


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